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"American Fathers Equal Rights Association" AFERA.org
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Temporary Home of "United States Fathers Equal Rights Association" USFERA.org
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* * Suggestions for FATHERS from Lawyers that specialize in “Family Law.”
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1) In their opening argument, a good attorney will pull out the statute or case applicable to yours, and outline a list of "tests," or factors in your case deemed controlling by those statutes or case law. The prepared attorney covers the factors one by one in his examinations and cross examinations of both parties. During his closing argument, he points out the differences between what you and your spouse are asking the Court to do, and how each of the chosen statutes decides those actions. During the case he will argue that anything else brought up is irrelevant and inadmissible. This tactic often keeps an honest judge’s mind open, and sometimes frames the arguments to your advantage. This tactic alone could, win your case! * 2) Argue that your spouse is unfit because: “Her own pleadings and actions are trying to minimize not maximize your time with the children,” while your pleadings ask for “maximum involvement of both parents.” By doing this, you put the Mother in a legal conundrum. She can increase her offers of visitation and holiday time with you, the children's Father, or chance looking foolish and vindictive explaining her position to a cross examiner. She then risks even less time with the children, and could -- in a worse-case scenario, run a serious risk of not obtaining sole custody. Either way, you better your position and minimize emotional damage to the children. Even if you don't win custody, you will enjoy much more visitation than fathers are routinely awarded by Family Courts in America today. *
3) You must stand up for your rights as a Father! When a cheating, guilty, vindictive spouse thinks they can run over you, simply take your kids, the house and the children's money, there is nothing to stop her unless you STAND UP for YOURSELF and your CHILDREN. When that same spouse suddenly faces the fact that she will not be uncontested and there is a REAL possibility that she may lose sole/primary custody and, may even be required to pay child support, the Mother usually becomes less aggressive more reasonable. Do not begin settlement negotiations by being reasonable. Demand everything just like she does! In negotiations you can only compromise down. If your first offer is reasonable, where do you go from there? Ask for sole custody. ALWAYS file for custody.
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4) Pleadings requesting only limited visitation are the best evidence of a Mother's unwillingness to facilitate visitation by the Father! Use those pleadings as an example in your closing argument. Argue: “The Father seeks equal time for parenting. The Children’s Mother seeks to limit the Father’s time to every other weekend. The Mother’s pleadings and arguments before this court are the best evidence of her unwillingness to further the close and continuing relationship between the child (children) and the(ir) father."
* Do you have more suggestions that will help Fathers stay in their childrens lives after divorce? Email them to us Now! TerrySoloman@aol.com
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American Fathers Equal Rights Association - Our Goals:
1) Keeping Fathers in the day-to-day lives of their children after divorce for a stronger, more loving society and country.
2) Cause the complete review and reform of America’s Family laws and its Family Court system.
3) Fight for the restructuring of Child Support laws and regulations, so that divorcing parents cannot use their children for financial gain, or as emotional weapons or pawns in divorce proceedings.
4) To lobby for and gain the Family Court’s acceptance of 50/50 parental responsibilities for child support, healthcare, insurance, education and housing.
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To non-violently protest and publicize the plight of Fathers, the permanent scarring of their children and the real, pervasive bias and misandry practiced against fathers daily in America's "Family Court" system.
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Membership in AFERA is FREE. There are no dues. The only requirement for membership in AFERA is a written promise to adhere to the organizations strict non-violence and peaceful civil disobedience philosophy.
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Always remember: Our children and their futures come first. Before our hurt, before our anger, grief and depression, the needs of our Children must come first!
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If you are a Father thinking about suicide, or homicide - CALL ME NOW 914-589-3985 . I’m Terry, a “Non-Custodial” Dad just like you! I understand, and I want to speak with you. CALL ME NOW! 914-589-3985.
We welcome Fathers, Clergy and Credentialed Professionals willing to help counsel and comfort Dads experiencing anxiety, sadness, hopelessness, depression, anger or suicidal thoughts. Membership in AFERA is FREE. There are no dues. The only requirement for membership in AFERA is a written promise to adhere to the organizations strict non-violence and peaceful civil disobedience philosophy. |
Westchester not doing enough for non-custodial fathers By TERRY R. SOLOMAN * I received a call from WABC Eyewitness News this week. They wanted to interview me, and explained that Westchester County had taken out a series of newspaper advertisements to try and shame "deadbeat dads" into paying their child support. Their reporter had seen my father's rights Web page and blog, and wanted my opinion on whether or not the ads would be effective. * I was torn about doing an interview. On one hand, I was afraid I would embarrass the people closest to me - guilt by association, but on the other I had an opportunity to tell the public about my reality. I had a chance to explain that many "deadbeat" dads are really "dead broke," struggling mightily just to maintain a single room and a shower. I reluctantly agreed to the interview. * The journalist asked my opinion on the ad. I said I believed the ads would be ineffective in retrieving any money from the men pictured in them. I believe these advertisements are aimed at voters, not "deadbeat" dads. This type of advertising, known in public relations circles as a "shame campaign," serves only the savvy politicians who put it forward couched as a "public service." * Had County Executive Andrew Spano spent the 64,000 Westchester tax dollars giving below poverty-level, non-custodial fathers minimum-wage jobs (which he could then garnish) calling other non-custodial fathers to urge them to start paying arrears, I would be far less skeptical about the real aim of these election year "public service" ads. * There is over $1 billion owed in child support arrears in the United States today. Of the tens of thousands of fathers who owe these arrears, it is estimated that 44-percent of them live below the poverty line, and almost 11 percent are currently serving time in correctional or mental health institutions. There are no services - none, for non-custodial fathers in Westchester County. By contrast, there are dozens of agencies and organizations operating within the county for single mothers, mothers in crisis, and mothers who need free legal help. * Until Westchester taxpayers realize the need for family law reform and parental equality within the family court system, cynical politicians will continue to hide their wasteful and contemptuous "Vote for Me" ad campaigns, behind serious issues that can't be addressed by a newspaper ad. Mr. Spano, $64,000 is a lot of tax money. Next time, please use it more efficaciously to help children and their parents - instead of your political career. * The writer, a White Plains resident, is president, American Fathers Equal Rights Association. (Original publication: October 21, 2006)
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Donations will help a below poverty line Father stay out of Child Support Arrears; Allow a Father to visit with his child; Pay a Fathers rent; help pay a Father's arrears; or help get a Father his Driver’s License back. THANK YOU!
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